Thursday, March 17, 2016

Autumn Resilience

Now that Labor Day has come and gone, how do we move from “Those Lazy, Hazy, Crazy Days of Summer” (Nat King Cole) to the to-do lists that autumn requires?  Whether we are returning home from actual vacations or simply getting back to the routines of daily life necessitated by resuming work, creative and/or school responsibilities, how can we help ourselves as we head into this new season?

People often seek out coaching to improve their efficiency by learning and improving their abilities to manage time, tasks, materials and space, establish routines, follow through on and complete chosen or assigned projects.  Most people have the desire and often need to bring more order to their lives.  They want to feel a sense of choice in what they are doing, to feel more in charge and not so out of control.  Together in our coaching sessions, we spend time making sense of what it is they are doing or want to be doing.  We categorize things, create to-do lists, establish schedules and routines and document calendars, set timers and alarms and work on accountability.  We address the obstacles to chosen goals and create conditions for success.  This is a challenging, dynamic, interesting and fun process requiring tenacity and hard work.
With all of this concentration on creating and implementing our to-do lists we often overlook the important steps necessary to build the strength and resilience necessary “to-do” all we desire.
As we work on the to-do lists in coaching, it is essential that we also build the strength and resilience necessary for everyone –and especially for those dealing with AD/HD and other executive functioning challenges— to deal with the details of daily life and the inevitable changes and challenges we encounter
The six elements we remain mindful of as we build strength and resilience are:
  1. Sleep
  2. Nutrition
  3. Exercise
  4. Meditation
  5. Medication
  6. Relationships/ Support
Much has been written about each of these, and the links shared below are only a beginning.  As we work to establish the practices necessary to create strength and resilience, a fluid ebb and flow between the to-do and the to-be in our lives emerges.  Everything gets easier!

Trusting Towards a Meaningful New Year!


Now that the dust is settling, and we are able to look towards 2016 with more equanimity and less through the lens of the highs and lows of holiday emotion, it’s a good time to contemplate what you would like to affect in the coming year.
As a coach, I have the pleasure of working with and witnessing people as they learn to self-regulate and move their lives in directions of their choosing. This is a challenge for many of us, and especially for people dealing with AD/HD and/or issues of executive functioning. The ability to make changes to affect future outcomes happens slowly, over time and with support. It is moving and informative to observe people throughout the process of coaching and to aid and be a part of each individual’s growth. At any time I have the pleasure of working with people who are just beginning the coaching process (brave and hopeful), people who are in the thick of it, so to speak(frustrated, yet tenacious), and others who are completing projects and/or the coaching process itself (satisfied and proud).
It takes a lot of courage to truly engage in a coaching relationship. It also takes strength, tenacity, patience and a lot of trust in the process: trust in your coach, trust in yourself and trust in the unique relationship we will develop to be able to affect change in your life.
Coaching is a highly individualized process. Following are stories of a few of the clients who I have had the great fortune and pleasure to work with as a coach: